On Sexuality: My Experience (partially)
Firstly, I am not in any way speaking for anyone who might read this. One’s sexuality is highly personal and sensitive, and I get that.
Just relating a few details about me that I might not have shared. I likely didn’t share them because I didn’t feel comfortable to do so. There are details about me that might help explain those reasons, but I’m not going to share them. If you know them, you know them; if you don’t, you don’t need to. If you want to ask me, feel free to do so — I have no secrets.
I identify as gay. What that means is that my preferred romantic and sexual partner is someone who identifies as the gender I identify as; what it does mean — and again, speaking only for me — is that I would happily be with someone identifying as female or anyone identifying as transgender or intersex. I’m mostly concerned with whether or not we “click,” if there’s a bond. The anatomy comes when it comes (no pun intended). I want some… connection, not just a meeting of body parts. I prefer penises, but no vaginal or anal issues. (Did I just write that?) Point is to state that sexuality is not divided into parts; you’re not “straight” “gay” “lesbian” “bi” “trans” — I think most people realise this now, but it’s still not universally accepted that sexuality is a spectrum, and that most of us are not 100% “straight” or “gay,” but somewhere in the middle. Where on that spectrum you yourself fall is something you need to discover on your own time, in your own place.
